What do you do when it is difficult to decide? If you can’t decide, you either take a chance with your intuition or simply do nothing. If you take a chance, what do you put on stake? Is it worth doing so? Well, if you win, you achieve the biggest happiness of your life. But, if you lose, you lose everything you have. Big risk … isn’t it? If you decide against taking this risk, well, you are looking good to be losing ‘it’, not with a burst though, slowly, but certainly.
However, the words before may not be striking towards a particular reference situation, but the idea is pretty much clear. Lack of the ability to decide is the biggest weakness, the ultimate handicap a person can have. Such a trait of one can put him in a vicious circle. No matter what but the doldrums are bound to get on you and your ship finally ends up nowhere.
Well, enough of blabbering. What the hell do I mean by making a decision? Is making a decision enough? Aren’t the consequences of the actions based on them count? What if what you decide was the worst possible thing you could have ever done in those circumstances? And you did that, you decided on that, just because you rushed in through a very critical situation. “Haste makes waste” … people say that, what more!
Well mate, probably these lines hit you better than those with which I started. But, it’s not about rushing into a decision, but making sure, that you at least reach to one. Because, more often than not, in a real life situation, a yes or no, a valid or invalid, an acceptance or denial, is more satisfying and worthy than a mere regret for not trying. At least it removes the thoughts from your mind, if you don’t try, and what might have happened if you did.
Again, one may argue, that it’s better if we take some good time to give a thought over the situation and then come to a decision. Well, if you think carefully, I never spoke against it. I am not against a thoughtful decision, how can I be. I spoke against the inability of making a decision. But, it does matter in most of the situations, ‘when’ you make up your mind. But, we may or may not realize, but we generally tend to mask our inability of decision, by the glittering carapace of a thoughtful mind.
Enough of what I had to say. Let’s get a bit practical now. I would hope, I am not trying to be pessimistic and my trying to be practical is not an excuse for the same. Something keeps striking me again and again, something I put in as:
“What if the best thing you ever thought of doing, may easily turn into the biggest blunder that you ever made, making you lose the most precious thing that you ever had, is it a risk worth taking?”
This question keeps hitting, hard, as hard it can ever do. Things are not as straight as we love to assume. Life is not always very simple. When it gets on you, it does that hard. At times, you get caught into situations, you never thought of being into. And you end up to a place where, there are two completely distinct ways. The first path, one you had always loved to be taking on, would either mean an attainment of everything you wanted or losing even the last penny that you had.
“What if everything you ever wanted, may cost everything you ever had?”
Well some questions, and the answers to them, mean to you more than any other damn thing you can think about. This is one of them. And the pursuit would continue, continue till the definition of time holds true for me, to get an answer, an answer that strikes my heart and soul. All I can pray is that it doesn’t get too late, before I ‘decide’!
6 comments:
when it is difficult to decide....well written dude!!
i have observed(& some of them i used too!!) people use different approaches to select a path...we can categorize them in two types:
1.Defensive i.e. always try to search out the safest possible path and follow it blindly i.e. you won't need to decide much,all things are well pre-decided and you just need to enjoy the ride along a well maintained path.
2.Offensive i.e. the path which very few people have dared to traverse.....the path which seems like a wild sanctuary.....i.e. u might become the prey of a wild animal,if you let yourself down for even a moment....so here is the THRILL to explore a new path...here the life isn't so boring....you will always understand the importance of Life here...You can't take any thing for granted here....so Beware mates!! your chnace to fail is as much as to survive this journey.No doubt if you suceed to reach at the desired zenith,you will be hailed as the BEST but if you got too tired in buliding a concrete path to finish it...then you might become a case study in some so called BEST instt.(well i havn't taken any name....so not offending any one..hoping that you won't cansore my this line!!!....) about what one should not do!!(but even this is also a very optimistic view about the result,in reality even that case seems to be very gloomy!!).......i know "Funda Guru" i am not saying anything new ....i am just trying to summarize your whole article..and writing what i am feeling.......so the billon dollar(or should i said Euro!!)question is where do i fit in all these words??i.e. what is my approach..............let me find the similarity among all the decisons i have taken till now!!....................................hmm...................................................................don't seem to be as easy as it initially seemed to me......is it??............................................................................................................................................................................................................. try it friends.................................................................................................................................................................................................................................................yup at least finally......well mine approach consists of two keywords......"Calculated Risk" & "stubborness to achieve what i want to achieve"( i did it finally.....and coutsey will go to my last major decison which i took recently.....may it prove to be as good as mine other decisions till now..)......Yes....as the famous quotes go "Nothing is perfect" so according to me perfection is an illusion & i amn't runnig behind it(by the way who will??..is some body told "perfectionist"...hmm.......).................. yet another quote which i can recall in present context is "To get profit without risk,experience without danger and reward without hard work is as Impossible as it is to live without being born"...............so................ i am totally against the first approach(just because it sucks all thrill from life....and i dont want to be too predictive!!)..........so thats it friends....................& yes Santy........hoping that it wont be too long comment for you guys & gals to go through it even once............thats all for now!!
“What if the best thing you ever thought of doing, may easily turn into the biggest blunder that you ever made, making you lose the most precious thing that you ever had, is it a risk worth taking?”
“What if everything you ever wanted, may cost everything you ever had?”
u really gave me something to think about, matie.
Very thought provoking indeed.. (Life is a huge binary tree man :P .. u always have two branches at each node...) the first one rewarding but risky, the second one safe but one which cant set u apart from all others and thus insulate you from the "thrill" that nm mentioned... But I think the answer to this one is a mix of both.. sometimes you have to play safe and at some other times you got to take the risk..
well written by the way and the title of the blog is just awesome "fundaguru" !!
Great thinkers, philosophers, subject matter experts, Bloggers and bla bla bla are already giving their sparkling thoughts about what we call decision making. it is very correct that many a times we get trapped in the confluence of two path one may be rewarding while the other u know ......., but I think making
an efficient and effective or well said good and rewarding decision
is all about the information u carry about the subject matter
if u lack the basic structure of both the path then your probability of choosing
the wrong path(easier and lucarative at the beginning) increases but if u have a strong database of both the path then ur decision making capability quickens and bent towards rewarding path.
Now the other aspect which may be called as destiny sometimes it happens that everything goes against you and the path which appeared fruitful becomes thorny and full of bushes and u ulimately loose the game and u are being called a bad player.
the other times it may be that you took the worng path
and in the middle you realize that oh what a blunder i have done by taking this path
and then u put off ur last drop of blood to create a new more rewarding path from that point, thus the path which appeared wrong initially becomes more fruitful to you.
hey gr8 work dude....but guys hav made it a bit confusing...a lot of classifications and paths ;)...
see the most important thng is how u judge yourself and how much r u honest with urself(totally based on the previous performances u hav shown..ha ha ha)...n i thnk tht if u realy goin out 4 a vry big decision tht can realy effect ur near future n can leave u wid nothn...den ur selfhonesty is goin 2 play a big role..just go by it(no arguments frnds,i thnk so..)
But if the decision u gonna take can effect on a smaller scale n can leave u wid somthn just take risk...u wil not regret...he he he :)
I shall be telling this with a sigh
Somewhere ages and ages hence
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—
I took the one less traveled by,
And that has made all the difference.
People have misconception about the meaning as intended by poet for these lines.
People think that it's important to take the road less travelled by, or the tougher path or to face the difficulties.
Well that's another philosophy and a thought povoking one too but if you read through whole poem and not just these line and have a look at the title as well - Title of this poem is 'Road not taken' and not as popular perception is 'Road less travelled by".
Frost here is saying that whatever road you take, less travelled or more travelled by, one thing is for sure that choice will make all the difference in your life. So don't be foolish or romantic and make a well reasoned choice. Having said that being stranded and waching the diversion is not a choice as not making a decision is also a decision.
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